The Five Principles: A Quick Summary

The Five Principles are intended to be lights on the path to presence with each other. They are not rules; they are guidelines. They are not answers; they are questions to be lived. They are not static; they are evolving as we evolve, redefined from moment to moment as we grow and change.

CCommitment to Connection:
An invitation to stay in connection with whatever is arising between you and others. This includes revealing yourselves and being open to the impacts from others. This does not mean we must remain in contact or be open; it does mean we inquire deeply into the truth of what is here instead of habitually reacting or avoiding. We can just as easily share and explore the feelings of being guarded, distant, confused, or unknown with someone as we can the feelings of vulnerability, closeness, or appreciation.

OOwning Your Experience:
Getting to our deepest truth, our unarguable experience beyond our projections. Encourages us to take responsibility for what is happening within us, and being open to that changing. Often this requires a letting go of outcomes and admitting feelings that challenge our sense of who we are.

SStaying With the Level of Sensation:
By including the subtle bodily sensations in our awareness, we can share with more power, presence, and discover more truth. These sensations often contain the least interpretation and therefore can surprise us with connections outside of rational analysis. This is about alive embodied sensations and emotions—not ‘dry’ body sensation sharing.
TTrusting Experience:
Invites us to honor the relative truth of any given experience inside of us, while discerning and tossing out the fluff. It is often an invitation to trust the unknown, to include non-rational experiences, and points to something beyond our individual consciousness.

BBe With The Other in Their World:
Deeply appreciating the perfection of someone in each moment, while getting penetrating insight into the nuances of their way of being. Seeing their inherent innocence, assuming nothing, and at the same time challenging assumptions in both of you (without any effort to change how someone or something is). This principle is a pointer to not just understand someone intellectually, but to surrender into being with them in that particular moment.

“Five” Photo Credit: Araí Moleri Riva-Zucchelli